Beyond Birds & Bees
Bringing Home A New Message to Our Kids About Sex, Love, and Equality
"A provocative exploration of how Americans teach our children about sex, with practical takeaways from the author's research, and her experiences observing Dutch parenting while living in Amsterdam Bonnie Rough was a new mother grappling with many typical concerns of raising a daughter: how to inspire her to push past stereotypes, how to teach her to have a healthy attitude towards her body and her sexuality. Then her husband's job relocated the family to Amsterdam, where Rough quickly witnessed the free, uninhibited, and egalitarian sexual attitudes of the Dutch--where nudity isn't frowned upon and parents hope their children have favorable sexual experiences more than fearing their activity. In Better Than Birds and Bees, Rough describes how to implement the easygoing, surprisingly low-risk European attitude, reflecting on her experiences with her daughters. With careful research and anecdotal discoveries, Rough outlines ways for American parents to navigate a culture with dismally little formal sexual education, showing how creating healthy sexual attitudes reverberates with every aspect of society, shaping not only childhood experiences but gender misconceptions and inequality through adulthood"-- Provided by publisher.
"A provocative inquiry into how we teach our children about bodies, sex, relationships and equality--with revelatory, practical takeaways from the author's research and eye-opening observations from the world-famous Dutch approach Award-winning author Bonnie J. Rough never expected to write a book about sex, but life handed her a revelation too vital to ignore. As an American parent grappling with concerns about raising children in a society steeped in stereotypes and sexual shame, she couldn't quite picture how to teach the facts of life with a fearless, easygoing, positive attitude. Then a job change relocated her family to Amsterdam, where she soon witnessed the relaxed and egalitarian sexual attitudes of the Dutch. There, she discovered, children learn from babyhood that bodies are normal, the world's best sex ed begins in kindergarten, cooties are a foreign concept, puberty is no big surprise, and questions about sex are welcome at the dinner table. In Beyond Birds and Bees, Rough reveals how although normalizing human sexuality may sound risky, doing so actually prevents unintended consequences, leads to better health and success for our children, and lays the foundation for a future of gender equality. Exploring how the Dutch example translates to American life, Rough highlights a growing wave of ambitious American parents, educators, and influencers poised to transform sex ed--and our society--for the better, and shows how families everywhere can give a modern lift to the birds and bees"-- Provided by publisher.
Berkeley : Seal Press, 2018.
xix, 299 pages ; 21 cm