We Are Never Meeting in Real Life

We Are Never Meeting in Real Life


Paperback - 2017
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"Whether [blogger and comedian Samantha Irby's] talking about how her difficult childhood has led to a problem in making 'adult' budgets, explaining why she should be the new Bachelorette--she's '35-ish, but could easily pass for 60-something'--detailing a disastrous pilgrimage-slash-romantic-vacation to Nashville to scatter her estranged father's ashes, sharing awkward sexual encounters, or dispensing advice on how to navigate friendships with former drinking buddies who are now suburban moms ... she's as deft at poking fun at the ghosts of her past self as she is at capturing powerful emotional truths"--Amazon.com.
Publisher: New York : Vintage Books, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, 2017.
ISBN: 9781101912195
Characteristics: xii, 275 pages ; 21 cm


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Top Picks: Brutally Honest Essays by Chicago’s Samantha Irby

OK, so Samantha Irby fled Chicago a while ago and now proudly resides in Michigan. For years, however, Chicago comedy and lit lovers in the know heard her at various readings around the city (Guts & Glory, The Paper Machete). Her blog, Bitches Gotta Eat, endeared her to the internet forever and brought her humor to a larger audience. Irby's essays embrace life's awkward moments. She… (more)

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August 2019 selection

August 2019 selection

Noted Chicago blogger Samantha Irby (B*tches Gotta Eat) is back with her second collection of humorous, fearless and often raunchy essays. Her writing is a combination of the self-assured and self-deprecating while covering important topics ranging from her difficult childhood to her health strug... Read More »

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JCLSarahZ Oct 26, 2020

A collection of essays. Funny and real. Also, really funny.

Sep 09, 2020

Nah. Aside from being crude, it is too sarcastic.

Jul 24, 2020

Meh. I think this book got too hyped up for me.

Mar 10, 2020

I can't believe it took me this long to discover Samantha Irby. She is probably the funniest writer today. Every obstacle that can be thrown at a human has been thrown in her direction and her brutal honesty and hysterical take on it will make it impossible not love her. You will cry actual tears from heart break and complete fits of laughter. Get this book immediately!

Dec 05, 2019

Samantha Irby is possibly one of the funniest writers in the world. She matches her impeccable ability to make a sentence pop with frank, eyes-wide-open observations and an impressive capacity for handling topics like depression (cw: some discussions of suicidal ideation), death, trauma, and potentially evil cats with candor and humor. She also writes about “lighter” topics, like dealing with ridiculous pet owners, dating, and ill-advised road trips, though she’s so incredibly good at balancing tone that in one essay you’re bound to run through a whole gamut of feelings.

Jun 17, 2019

With 14 years between writing her first and second essay collections, I found Irby’s content to be richer, more meaningful, even when on the surface it wouldn’t appear that way.

Apr 11, 2019

She’s a clever writer but her essays are uneven. Some are definitely better than others. She shines brightest when writing about her complicated relationship with her father. She’s very self-deprecating, but there is comfort with it and you find yourself connecting with the author. Overall, I enjoyed her insights, although she can be a little crass. Definitely worth reading and discussing in book club. She’s definitely a voice for the 21 century.

DBRL_JessicaS Sep 10, 2018

"We are Never Meeting in Real Life" felt like a progressive movement for Irby from "Meaty." A lot of the essays echoed each other, but they showed personal growth in her work. Meaty dives into Irby's personal life in the blogger style writing that she's used to, but the maturity in her writing is more present in this piece. It slows down and focuses on the scene more, rather than telling us how we should feel about her experiences.

Aug 31, 2018

Also, "Shrill" (Lindy West), "Bad Feminist" (Roxanne Gay), "You Can't Touch My Hair" (Jessica Robinson).

Aug 15, 2018

I am both embarrassed and elated by how much I related to the author of this collection.

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