This is a very encouraging book for us guys who are not tall, rich, smart etc. Someone is telling the girls that we may be worth investigating.

The more I read the book, the more I see how important the advice is. This book should be on the shelf of all marriage counsellors and pastors and it would be good to put in high school and college libraries as well. The advice is important for both men and women who are desiring to marry and for couples who are contemplating divorce. Although the author is still single she praises marriage for the many benefits she sees her married friends enjoying and herself missing. She praises the "good enough" marriages as normal and quite desirable while discouraging thoughts of the perfect marriage as unrealistic and an impossible dream.

as i am approaching nearly 31 and im single, this is a highly depressing yet realistic book. i read it because its compelling yet extremely scary. a lot of us are floating through our 20's without considering that our biological clocks are ticking and that we have been too fussy and given up good men that will be married by the time we feel its time to settle. i wish for me this book was written 10 years ago. i encourage anyone in their 20's to read this.its based on a 40 year old single mothers search for Mr Right and to find a guy that will have a woman her age is difficult. she interviews various men, women, married, single, divorced to gain a perspective. she also visits the matchmaking/online dating world. also gets statistics (highly depressing again)what im going to do now, is get off my high horse, go out and try and meet someone. its affected me, that bad.

this is the perferct book for me and im only 12 wow two thumbs up

This is a cautionary tale that is intelligently and humorously told by a single 41-year old mother who has had enough of searching for "the One". After years of passing up many good guys for not measuring up to her unreasonable and unrealistic expectations, she realizes that what she needed was a reevaluation of what she really wanted from a husband and how to look for those few essential qualities while dating (rather than analyzing a man based on lust, looks and how he many points he scores on a checklist of desirable qualities).

The picture Gottlieb paints is bleak (especially for older, single women) but a necessary slap of reality for the mass of females who have been brainwashed with the notion that they are all entitled to the perfect soul mate. Through the stories of several women and her own, she demonstrates the flawed reasoning, successes and key insights that readers will share with their friends. As a younger reader (early 20s), I still appreciated the issues raised by Gottlieb and would easily recommend this fun and intriguing book to friends and family.