Option B is the path someone is forced to take after something has gone horribly wrong. There are many heartbreaking moments in this book about the devastating loss Sheryl Sandberg suffered after her husband died. In Lean In she wrote about how supportive her husband David was, and this book is about her life after he's gone. The most poignant parts are about her children, and how she worries about helping them with their grief when she is in so much pain herself.
This is an example of a short essay that they've tried to expand into a book. A corporate elite suffers a human tragedy, shucks. Her wooden counselor adds some pointless material. It all descends into PC mush. Don't waste your time.
Sheryl Sandberg is the COO of one of the largest companies in the world. That fact does not exclude her from one of the biggest heartbreaks of life--the sudden loss of her husband. In writing this book, "Option B" with Adam Grant she takes the reader on an intimate journey into the experience from the moment of his death to the next twelve months, telling us how she transitioned from the initial shock, grief and difficulty coping to the place where she is now. What I loved about the book is how Sheryl's intelligence, vulnerabilities and courage came through. This is a woman who's corporate personae is not diminished by her candour. Each step of the way (and all the slips backwards) she provides anecdotes supported by coping methods that helped her get through each day; the parent teacher conferences without her husband, the first birthday without her husband, all the social events and important work challenges without her life partner and friend. This is a book about "facing adversity, building resilience and finding joy" again.
Interesting points made . The author is right that not all people deal with grief the same way.
I have had my share of loss and heartbreak but prefer talking with close friends only. Maybe the difference between an introvert and extrovert but sometimes a person does forget the tragedy for a minute or two and then someone comes along and opens the wound with a question.
Informative read for those of us with gray hair. A revealing book about how one woman coped with the sudden death of her husband, grieving and adjusting to a new reality.
I went through a tough time with the loss of a relative and a relationship at the same time. I wish it was written earlier so I could have felt normal when I was going through so much grief. I can relate to alot of what she said.
Option B is Sheryl Sandberg's account of the loss of her husband and how she coped with it. It is also about, as the subtitle says, facing adversity, building resilience, and finding joy. The very first chapter talks about not falling into the trap of the three P's namely permanence, pervasiveness, and personalization. As Sandberg explained these she had me hooked. While this book will serve as a great primer for someone suffering a loss it is also a good book for the general reader.
I have read her another book Lean in. But Option B is much better. Way better than I expected. I never expected someone can share their minds and feeling so transparently. Moreover, I always think and reflect myself when I was reading it. Afterward, when something came up, some sentences in the book even came across my mind and remind me "it is not always because of you". I love this book. Highly recommended!
When I picked up this book on a friend's recommendation, I did not expect it to be so absorbing. For a non fiction, I devoured almost 3/4 of the book the day I got it.
Sandberg speaks from the heart and tells her heartbreaking story of building resilience after a tragedy. She talks about some of her close friends (a lot of famous people) who have gone through similar histories and brings the reader into her own world.
Poignant, sad and a little humour here and there, this book is a definite must read.
To start, I want to recognize that this must have been an extremely difficult book for Sandberg to write. I commend her bravery and openness in sharing her story.
I did not, however, like the format of this book. While I think it would have been fine as a single-authored memoir or guide book on dealing with grief/adversity, the mix of the two did not sit well with me. It was too jarring to flip repeatedly from personal passages detailing Sandberg's unimaginable loss to dry, clinical summaries of scientific studies about grief.
By the end of the book, I was left wanting to read a more traditional memoir authored only by Sandberg.
My favorite quote from this book:
Tragedy breaks down your door and takes you prisoner. To escape takes effort and energy. Seeking joy after facing adversity is taking back what was stolen from you.
I would have liked this better if it had just been a memoir of Sandberg dealing with her grief. Having the research added in just kind of took some of the emotion out of it for me. It was like "my children will now have to live without their father, along with [insert statistic]" (not an exact quote, but you get the gist). It did have some good points of how people deal with grief differently and there's no timeline for how long one should "properly" grieve. It also gave good points on how to be a friend to someone who is grieving. Overall I liked it, just wish the research part had been left out of it.
There's now a review of this book in "Positive Psychology News Daily" http://positivepsychologynews.com/news/lisa-sansom/2017070336893
Speaking from personal experience, this book gives just the right kind and right amount of advice. Grief and the path forward is different for every person but Sheryl gives some worthwhile suggestions for anyone overcoming adversity. I especially agree with ideas to not let an event be pervasive or permanent. Hard to do when you feel underwater. I found the logic behind journaling to be spot on. That helped me even when I didn't know why.
There has been a surge of recent widowhood books and Sheryl Sandberg's
Is the latest.
It is well written and evocative of loss, but reading it,I felt like I was in the self-help
Section at Chapters.
In many ways, her advice could be applied across the board ...on a spectrum from job loss
She certainly is privileged, and acknowledges she has an entire 'village' in the wings to help.
It is a little bit anecdote, a little cognitive therapy and simplified studies of research.
She seems to know everyone..and everyone who has suffered horrible and tragic loss.
Still, was worth reading; but Didions 'Magical Thinking', and Sharon Butala's "Where I Live now"'are my favourites. Their husbands were older,their marriages longer, and their grief
Leaning in was simple in comparison. A powerful narrative of loss, overwhelming sorrow and the journey through grieving.